Sunday, October 30, 2005

Contrived Learning Activities

I often founnd homeschool unsatisfying because we often didn't seem to
do much. As Thomas, Roger and April grew into middle childhood and
early adolescence they rarely instigated activities of the kind I'd
find in a classroom of their peers. We were always busy, but products
weren't always a focus or immediate outcome of our activities.
Sometimes it took ages to complete a project, even years. Many
projects were abandoned mid-stream, as new passions or interests
arose; or as I later realised, the essential learning driving the
interest was satisfied and there wasn't a valid or pressing reason to
go any further.

Because the children came to projects motivated by their own interests
and passions, usually bursting with ideas, they stayed on task,
working for hours on end without break, sometimes focussed for days.
It would have been silly for me to interrupt these intense learning
sessions, to introduce an activity that would 'teach' or advance other
skills...

I realised that a lot of the curriculum presented in schools mimics or
tries to set up artificial environments to stimulate learning that
naturally and effortlessly occurs in the home, especially in the area
of health, personal and physical development. Learning hygiene and
nutrition at home isn't alienated from cause and effect, sanitised by
reams of paperwork and colouring in. It's immediately meaningful to
the learner, who doesn't even know he or she is learning anything at all.

Homeschooling for us has been essentially activity based, and as we
grew in our knowledge of how learning really occurs those activities
became less contrived. It's hard to justify doing something for
learning's sake, but it's easy to persuade involvement in rebuilding a
petrol driven motor for a miniature car for a senior citizen to drive
in the local end of year pageant as a clown... Easy because Roger and
Thomas are interested in mechanics, love to help friends, don't want
to perform in the pageant, but want to support it by cheering it along
and helping build a float or two, as they see participation as vital
to building community.

Up until a couple of years ago, I still fell into the trap of asking
Thomas to do something that feels alien and not at all immediately
meaningful in any context. I rack my brain for reasons, and usually
find some kind of fear, and we settle on that, and do the silly thing
and feel better. We're happy to compromise, but only because most of
our life is full of busy, self motivated and meaningful activities
that are loaded with all the goals and objectives and stated aims of
all the school curricula I have ever read. I often wonder what lasting
effect constantly mimicking real life, way past the age where such
pretend games are happily played, has on young minds...

© Beverley Paine

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Thursday, October 27, 2005

Honesty: secret to homeschooling and parenting success

A friend recently wanted to know why I had such nice children – which is the generally accepted view around here! I had no ready answer other than I thought it had something to do with homeschooling, which is true.

However, not all homeschooling children are so nice, or so caring towards their parents and their siblings, the environment, etc.... so it had to be something else.

Honesty has always been big in my life, but I never really consciously knew it until this year. I used to fight hard against hypocrisy, as it was rather prevalent at home during my childhood. It’s hard to recognise one's own hypocrisy: I found I had to be scrupulously honest and very critical with and of myself to reveal it. This is a major focus of my life, and one of the goals underpinning the home education of the children.

From the start I made sure that I told the kids as much as I could about how I felt, what I believed, and pointed out that there are other ways of being that are just as valid as mine. Tolerance seemed to me to be important in the development of honesty.

I tried as best as I could not to lie to the kids, to myself or to others. I tried not to 'hide' anything from them, except surprise presents, of course! If I talked about my children, and I do that all the time, the children know about it and what I say, etc. We didn’t lie to control their behaviour. If we didn’t want them to do something we said so - "I don't want you to do that because it (worries, frightens, annoys...) me, or will endanger yourself or others. Then we might talk about it. Often the children would accept my ‘ruling’ without explanation, far too busy to stop and listen, and confident in my judgement. I know that’s because we’d been careful to trust and respect each other, both dependent on honesty!

Over the years I’ve found that talking to others honestly about how I live, how I feel, how things are like at home, now and in my past, has given them the confidence to talk about themselves. I would never have found out that most of us share the same worries, concerns and fears and that a problem shared is a problem half-solved, if I hadn’t been so honest and revealing in the first place. I’ve made so many wonderful friends I can rely on for support during any kind of crisis, or for simply having a great time together. Life’s too short to miss out on that!

© Beverley Paine

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Saturday, October 15, 2005

Deschooling

It can take over a year to adjust to homeschooling after bringing a child home from school. It’s necessary to rethink the whole idea of education. Classroom learning is geared to educate thirty children with one teacher. It’s not impossible, but it’s difficult and frustrating to simply transfer classroom teaching and learning approaches directly to the home setting.

In addition, there’s a good chance that the child has had her natural desire to learn, as well as her creativity and imagination quashed. She will need time to detox, take a vacation, have some down time – or all three!

The parent needs to deschool as well. For most of us the only educational approach we’ve known is some kind of school – institutionalised learning. We’re used to the idea that education is a passive ‘they teach and we learn’ kind of thing. Educators, even in schools, know this is only a tiny part of what really happens. We need to update our notions about constitutes an education. The easiest way to do this is to talk to other homeschooling families, hang out with them, and see for ourselves how children learn outside of a school setting.

Some of the myths about education we must dispel are:

  • It cannot take place without a university trained and qualified educator
  • It has to take place in a classroom or classroom environment, with desks, texts or workbooks
  • It takes place Monday through Friday from 9 a.m. to 3 p.m.
  • It stops when we graduate from high school
  • Children must learn certain concepts in a predetermined manner
  • Children must learn certain concepts at a specified age
  • Children cannot learn without a qualified educator to hold their hand and guide them through the learning process

Some books I recommend for parents are:

Challenging Assumptions in Education

Dumbing us Down

Self University

Creating Learning Communities

Punished by Rewards

© Beverley Paine

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Thursday, October 13, 2005

Natural Learning and Simplicity and Survival

What are you up to today? Can you name the learning that occured? Pick one incident and describe what happened, why it happened and what was learned - both intentionally and unintentionally.

I learn all the time and the bit that makes me buzz with joy (yep, truly buzz with joy and a fair bit of excitement) is that I never know before each moment what I'm going to learn in the next.

I have a fair idea most of the time. That's because I'm a control freak. I haven't met a kid yet that wasn't hung up on control. That's what drives most kids to not do anything, especially in public, unless they get it perfect first time! I often wonder what sows the seeds of this need to control everything in our environment, or if it's imprinted in our DNA?

Humanity goes to amazing extremes to control the environment - spacial and temporal. What other critter does that? Most engage in controlling behaviour, and it's pretty obvious that much of that is directly related to survival.

When homeschooling and living, I did my best - which wasn't never good enough, by the way, to satisfy me - to keep focussed on the survival stuff. Natural and simple living and learning reflects a focus on survival. What do we need to survive? But beyond survival is thriving... Humanity can't afford to keep thriving at any cost though. We need to pull our focus back to survival for a while.

What happens when we model our homeschooling lives around this idea? When we scale back our learning programs back to the daily essentials? What are the daily essentials? What do you think they are? What does a child really need to know and be able to do on the way to becoming an adult? How many of us focus on what we consider to be the most important survival tasks each day?

When I look at how I go about surviving each day I'm appalled at how fogged up by complexity these simple tasks have become. I seem to make them thus, in order to justify my existence. Most of my worries grow from this complexity too. And all of the distractions that clutter my life! They form a weird kind of salve that soothes the underlying disquiet as they feed my addiction for busy-ness!

I feel the time is right to develop a natural learning curriculum that truly focusses on the basics, and then lets the individual get on with the business of playing with the rest...

© Beverley Paine

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Wednesday, October 12, 2005

Story Telling

"Wendy…was just slightly disappointed when he admitted that he came to the nursery window not to see her but to listen to stories. "You see, I don't know any stories. None of the lost boys knows any stories."
"How perfectly awful," Wendy said.
Peter Pan, J.M. Barrie

Humans have always created stories as a way of making sense of the world. It’s origins our buried in our intrinsic need to share personal experiences and understanding, and no doubt grew from simple embellishments and playfulness to the wonderful abundance of imagination we enjoy today. Beyond this, however, there is the innate need to pass on knowledge, wisdom, belief and value systems from generation to generation within communities to create a sense of social connection and belonging. Creating and retelling of stories bring countless hours of fascination, amusement, excitement and pleasure to children and adults alike. A storyteller is more than a teller of stories: storytellers are entertainers, teachers and healers with a long spiritual tradition.

Everyone tells stories. Many of us don’t recognise that when we tell our family and friends what happened yesterday we’re telling a story. This storyteller lives in the creative moment and in our intuitive self. Each time we recount the story we embellish it with remembered or imagined detail, adjust the emotional tone, select different emphasis to suit different audiences. If listened to with respect and interest our intuitive story telling abilities help to develop not only our language skills, but also our social development. By reflecting on the stories in our own lives we can enhance our ability to move beyond retelling into creating imaginative stories that help to build social connections within our communities and give rise to culture and heritage.

© Beverley Paine

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Sunday, October 02, 2005

Beginning Home Education

Beginning home education isn't as daunting as removing your child from school, which is almost another matter altogether!

We naturally teach our children, and have done from birth. The curriculum we offered them in the first few years of life was complete and needed only tweaks here and there as we discovered more about parenting and adjusted to family life.

When our children needed stimulating materials to take their skills and knowledge that one step further we provided them. We didn't ask a toddler taking his first steps to climb a staircase, but we gradually allowed him to explore one step at a time, with guidance and support.

Teaching our children what they need to know and being there for them, finding the things that will help them grow, is what parents do. If we've helped them master some of the most difficult tasks in life - learning to walk, talk and get along with others, all of which are usually taken care of in the first five years - then why do we have doubts that we can teach them to read, write, calculate, become social beings, and eventually launch themselves into world of adult life?

Education has become a mystified process, available only to the 'experts'. If we don't have a piece of paper certifying us in some way then we're obviously not qualified. But what is education? Take a minute to define the concept. Isn't this something you're already doing - and succeeding at?

It takes four years at university to learn how to teach everyone else's children. But we're only teaching our children. We don't need degrees and qualifications. Our job isn't the same as a classroom teacher. We're lucky - as are our children. And what's more, we have access to just about all the resources available to teachers. And our children have access to their teachers all day, not just between the hours of nine and three.

It's easy to feel intimidated and worried about making the decision to home educate. I used to worry that I'd fail my children: this worry kept me on my toes, always looking for more effective ways of meeting their learning needs. For years my greatest concern was not whether my children were learning, but how I could prove that to others... I found recording what and how my children were learning a great help to building my confidence as a home educator. My patchy records became a basis for my 'annual reports'. Most people seemed more accepting of the idea of home education once they looked through my collection of records. Over time I became adept at translating more of our daily patterns of activities into educational jargon, and began to teach my children things other people thought they needed to know. It took time, but eventually we eased back into the rhythm of learning that proved so successful in their early years.

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